Following the public health measures announced on 23rd March to stay at home and reduce our contact with other people, there have been questions as to what this means for separated families, in particular around the issue of contact arrangements for children.
The Full guidance on staying at home and away from others published by the Cabinet Office states that, ‘Where parents do not live in the same household, children under 18 can be moved between their parents’ homes.’ (23.3.2020 https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/full-guidance-on-staying-at-home-and-away-from-others/full-guidance-on-staying-at-home-and-away-from-others).
For separated families, this means that if there is an order in place specifying that your child spends time with both parents this should be adhered to. Similarly, if you have an agreement with a former partner or spouse this should be followed.
It is vital that guidance on social distancing is followed during the handover of any children and during their time with their respective parents. NHS advice must be followed with regards to self-isolation.
The current situation can seem overwhelming for separated parents. However, there are some things you can do to make day-to-day living easier for everyone involved.
Practical tips for separated parents
1. Use technology to maintain contact
With most of us staying at home, technology is helping us keep in touch with our loved ones and friends. WhatsApp video calls, FaceTime, Zoom and Skype mean that we can maintain face-to-face contact, which really helps separated parents, especially if usual contact arrangements for children are disrupted due to one parental home self-isolating.
Separated parents can agree between them when calls can happen and perhaps arrange more regular calls to help maintain contact during these difficult times. A big tip for parents, if you are not particularly techie, ask the kids to explain how things work! Always ensure that you stay safe online.
2. Establish a routine for school work
Many parents are getting to grips with children learning at home. When it comes to school work, it really helps if separated parents establish a routine and are clear about what is expected. This will keep things consistent for children at both parental homes and also means that both parents understand what they need to do. It is well worth creating a simple timetable detailing when children should do school work. You can also build in time when parents can help with activities, depending on any work commitments.
Parents also need to make sure that children moving between homes have everything they need to do their school work, whether this is ensuring they take their laptop or packing the necessary school books. You could make a list of essential items to make sure nothing is missed. By taking simple steps, both parents can help make contact arrangements for children work during the coronavirus outbreak.
3. Set ground rules
We are all experiencing huge changes to the way we live, work and study.
Parents need to work together to decide what is appropriate for children when they are spending time at their respective homes. Whether they are happy, for example, for children to go out for a cycle ride with a parent (as part of leaving the house for one form of exercise a day).
Setting ground rules will help families, where parents have separated, understand what they can and cannot do and help to minimise conflict.
4. Work to minimise conflict
A family breakdown is upsetting for everyone involved and can lead to conflict between separated parents.
During these unprecedented times, children will be feeling more anxious and need reassurance. It is essential that parents avoid disputes and work together to make children feel loved and safe.
Family solicitors at Ward Gethin Archer are members of Resolution, which is an organisation in family law that is committed to resolving family disputes in a constructive and conciliatory way.
5. Ask for help
In most cases parents will be able to work together at this difficult time. However, sometimes separated parents are not able to agree on important matters for children or may need clarity regarding contact arrangements.
An application can still be made at Court if an agreement cannot be reached. Court hearings are being held remotely. This however should be a last resort for separated parents who should seek advice first.
The way we all work has changed, with many staff across the country working from home. However, you can still get help. If you need legal advice on family matters contact a Solicitor or if you are unable to reach an agreement speak to a Mediator.
Our Family Solicitors and Family Mediation Team are here to help. Call Ward Gethin Archer on 01553 660033.
Information correct on 25th March 2020
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